Halloween approached, and she dreaded the unavoidable confrontation. When Leslie took her children to the store to get costumes, Mary chose Jasmine (from Aladdin). Initially, Danny tried to choose the same costume, but his mother said no. Danny thought her refusal meant that he should choose a different costume from his sister’s. But when he selected a princess costume, his mother said, “I don’t think that’s best, honey,” and suggested a cowboy costume. Disappointment flashed in his face, followed by shame. They eventually resolved that he would be a magician with top hat and cape and wand, but she had no illusions that this was Danny’s first choice.