I normally meet women in a natural way. I have no problems getting to know my partner, talking to her, finding out what she wants, what interests her, what I can offer her, what makes her laugh, what sense of humor she has. The transition from talking to tenderness is also not a problem for me. I try to adapt to my partner and not insist too quickly on touches. The problem arises only when intercourse is about to occur after kissing, caressing and touching. At that moment I get the fear of failure. The partners were mostly disappointed, I reacted with depression and the breakup followed.
Therefore, in order to be able to have intercourse, a non-erotic context must be established. The partner must be unattuned to intercourse, or group sex, watching porn and the like can help. There is a coordination error in my sexually motivational system, as partial motivational states do not follow each other. If I'm cuddling with a partner, I'm not able to have sex with the same partner!